Dating in aa
He pursued and pursued, and I rejected and deflected, hating myself too much to respond to anyone who liked me.
One day, when I was telling him everything about him that made him not my type, he said, “You really should be nice to me because we are going to end up together.” He’s not what I would have ever imagined for myself back when I was a distraction-seeking, unhinged newcomer.
She could fix your car and then stay up till in the morning eating ice cream and talking about feelings, burning you Tori Amos CD’s.
She was what I called “guy light.” “It would be better,” I told her one night, “if you had a penis.
As an adult, however, what you do know is pain and heartbreak.
When I relapsed for the umpteenth time and ended up with a militant black lesbian for a sponsor, she was very clear that I was not going to fuck my way through the rooms this time around.So when you break up with somebody, don’t be surprised when they end up dating your sponsor or sponsee.Dating in the program is like fishing in a small toxic pond.“Baby, you only going to go to women’s meetings and gay meetings,” she said. You gonna focus on recovery.” “Well that sounds boring,” I said.“But how am I going to get laid going to women’s meetings and gay meetings? But I had just come out of a psych ward, and had also just cracked my head open when I fell backwards after having a grand mal seizure when my meds were changed, so I was wiling to try it another way.
“I‘ll take the meeting and you can have the Big Book study.” Even if you avoid those meetings and drive 45 minutes out to bumfuck where nobody knows your name, word gets out.