Dating a borderline male
The fear of being abandoned is almost always, even if only subconsciously, the driving force of our ‘crazy’ behaviour in relationships.
To understand why our reactions can be so adverse, our partner needs to understand that because of our illness, we think differently in some ways to others.
It’s well documented that we love to turn to a quick fix; drugs, alcohol, binge eating, any risk taking behaviour that fills us up for a second.
If he/she senses that you are going to break off the relationship, they may go into survival mode and start searching for other partners in advance or cheat.
Now, obviously living in each others’ pockets is neither healthy nor feasible, and sometimes the intensity of someone with BPD’s love can be too much at first.
Some people pull away for space, which is possibly the hardest thing for us to take.
Having such strong emotions make people with BPD incredibly empathetic, and because of this we find it easy to connect with people on an emotional level quickly.
The feeling is so wonderful that when they’re gone (albeit maybe only to work for the day), you hit the floor like a rock and back comes that creeping emptiness.